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Caregiving is not easy...but YOURS could be EASIER...

There are better ways for both of you to get through this. In the end, it is about lives well lived...and that, my friend, is about bouncing well. (That would be Gift #10)

Resilience in the trenches of love is the goal for which the Field Guide ( and its subsequent Start Again) was written because caregiving – your efforts here –change everything.

You don’t have to be a perfect caregiver... in fact, it gets in the way.

Caregiving changes the planet but it also changed me—teaching some tough and tender lessons. As a daughter, I was in it, but now as a hospice chaplain I have some perspective on it... Perhaps, it should be titled...a daughter's field guide...but it's not just for daughters. This book is for anyone on the frontlines of love...and illness with another.

This is messy work and inherently possesses minefields of unresolved stuff. (Stuff being a technical term for stories that got baked in deep before we knew we were in an oven...)

Grab and go inspirations in bite-sized pieces.


These are my rules and gifts to you for growing a good life – even in the confusing soils of caregiving. Begin Again, (the first eight rules) offer you in inside-out survival that is both practical and doable. The Field Guide has all three sections and 31 rules:

       • The Frontlines
       • The Trenches and
       • The Garden of Change

Caregiving is love’s race and that is the miracle...of taking care.

These books are about those more balanced choices and a compass, which is more compassionate to all. Of course, there are things we cannot control, but there are things that we can do and skills we can grow...like resilience. It's a skill that can be learned and relearned, if necessary.

Running on empty? Driving with a happy face sticker across the gas gauge?  This book is gasoline for your tank.


       • Choose EASIER.
       • Get RESILIENT.
       • Make a BETTER day.

Get the book and get the leverage...of lived wisdom

Written with:
       • the cred of a solo daughter in the trenches,
       • the perspective of a healthcare professional,
       • & just enough humor to make a better day...
"I started reading your book ...and was hooked
by the end of chapter one. An informative, compassionate read
by someone who has walked the walk." 
– Barbara Karnes, RN 2019
Author of Gone from my Sight ('the little blue book')
Read it all night.  It was funny and useful. - A.W.

This book is awesome and very relevant!! I have shared it with our Hospice/Palliative Care team.
- L.H.R
This was a great read with a hearty dose of humor. - D.S.

I wish I would have had it.....I'm still recovering from thoughts of should I have
done this, or that? Trying to save him from the inevitable.
I never had time to myself, I always was listening to make sure I would hear if he fell. - C.G.

For the most recent reviews,  see the Field Guide's Amazon page.