A Hospice Chaplain's Field Guide to Caregiving
(stressed-out caregivers click HERE...)
Caregiving changed me.
This book is a field guide to caring for yourself and a beloved--at the same time. Some rules might be new to you, or some simply reminders of what you already know to be true.
They are a distillation of eleven years of being with, and watching over my demented diva…because what we went through counts for something.
These rules are about caregiving and giving care as a renewing pair.
I am finally ripe enough to see—it is my time too (and always has been to my surprise...). I believe that my rules will help you, navigate a lighter, healthier path in the valley in which people-who-love-and-show-up will eventually find ourselves. My rules are gifts to you; they will support you in growing a better life right now—wherever you find yourself.
Whether you are one of the 44 million, unpaid caregivers on duty in the U.S.A. right now, or on the other side of those trenches in the loss of a love, it is your season too.
Life is lived within this garden of change. It's never too late to plant seeds of a life you came here to live—a garden of your own.
If you are in the middle of caregiving an elder or a loved one, or missing someone who you have cared about, I can help.
Caregiving (and caring) changes everything. It changed me—teaching some tough and gentle lessons.
It's not easy, in fact it is dangerous work but a good life needs resilience and that is one of the first things that gets depleted when caregiving.
My journey may look a lot like yours...(or not) I'm not talking as a hospice chaplain (but I am that). I am talking about a life well lived...and that, my friend, is about bounce.
Resilience in the trenches of love is the goal for which the Field Guide was created. Caregiving changes everything.
Caregiving changes the planet.
A caregiving field guide for people-who-love-and-show-up...both for themselves and their sweet others...
There is pain and fear in the stories of caregiving. It's just part of it. In the end, we overcame the fear. Love won. I made a new life...one that fits me now.
May the thirty one notions be gifts to support you, as they do me—everyday, in the growth and weeding of a life well lived—wherever you find yourself now.
And thank you for all you do...