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RE: renewable caring

For those who show up...however they can for love

…caregiving of yourself and your others …and the world

to be better gardeners of our ONE WILD AND PRECIOUS LIFE….

Wonderfully Made.

7/22/2020

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I am having a conflict with a business associate…It troubles my world.
My responses to date have not healed it.  Compromise does not work.  I experience this someone as a bully, which makes me want to fight him…not literally… but to prove I am right so I can be safe.

BUT I DON”T have to fight to be safe. Safety is in my control by declaring Divine order...(This is not a beginner spiritual lesson... it's for the seasoned.)
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You don’t have to fight to be safe...

“THE absolutely trustworthy is seated at our hearts, working through our hands, predominating in all our being.”

“Reside at the center of this circle “


Drop down to your heart center
Trust yourself and the unfolding.
Be steady in the ‘not knowing’ I am right where (and when) I am meant to be

Divine Order is for the seasoned...

Life has to kick you around a little and soften you before you do something that crazy.  Trusting the unseen?  Or that the knucklehead in our way... might be there to help us learn a lesson...or remember the lesson. 

Life is this practice.


Daily word last week said this about Divine order:

I declare divine order and know all is well. It is the first and last affirmation for a prayer…My job is to pray and trust that the highest and best good of all concerned is manifesting in an orderly fashion…the answers will come in perfect timing…

Spirit is within me and within everyone…Divine order is present in every person and in all situations.

I am at peace with what is…and what will be; Divine order is unfolding.
I affirm the unfolding…even when the world looks like it is not…

…like this situation before me.

A Higher Perspective

Affirming Divine order lays the critical ground of PERSPECTIVE AND perspective allows me to stand in my authenticity (or truth)  BUT at…a higher perspective… I can 'reside at the center of the circle" at my center…and listen.



The Master sees things as they are,
Without trying to control them.
She lets them go their own way,
And resides at the center
of the circle.

   –The Tao te Ching No. 29


Feed Me Feedback...is a good thing.

I know this:
The world is designed to trigger what is not yet healed in me.

...So… it COULD BE that feedback is happening here.  We are all learning and until we do we are all (sometimes) knuckleheads.

That’s pretty humbling...its a human place and a forgiving place.

This is from my book. No 30 – Feed me Feedback and like Divine order...it is NOT A BEGINNER RULE…


Sound meditation...which inspired this.

No. 30  Feed Me Feedback

We are not made to do this alone.

We need our fellow passengers, our time-traveling shipmates, to help us refine the implementations of our dreams...

It is the basis of all innovation—and what makes the Golden State gold (and the Pacific Northwest green) because we don’t do great things alone. We need each other.

It’s about being willing to try again, to grow and be better—from information received.

Just because I listen to advice doesn’t mean I take it, (or that they are right…)
but it could be the key to discovering something wonderful. Feedback is easier to accept if it is tactful—but even if unskillful, if it lands on the fertile, adult soil of willingness … it can be course correcting.

You can pivot. Changing how a dream looks (or starting again from scratch) may be the quickest and best way to get to where you want to be. It is the difference between persistence and stubbornness (which can be look-a-likes).
I lost a lot… not receiving feedback well.

 – A Hospice Chaplain's Field Guide to Caregiving–Finding Resilience on the Frontlines of Love


To stay in relationship with what and who disturbs you...or not

it could be that the best response to this to let this situation or person go.  
AND…THEN You become feed me feedback to them…if they are listening…which is not really your business.


THANK YOUS
1) My thanks to Mary Oliver for her  line from THE SUMMER DAY. – my one wild and precious life…
2) MY thanks to  SF unity for the invitation to practice as my highest self.   I invite you to do that today.  We need your voice.    Blessings….on your day.

ATTRIBUTIONS:
1)    Daily Word – 7.16 & 7.16. 2020 World Peace & Reflect
2)    Ralph Waldo Emerson – Self Reliance
3)    My book Ch. 30 Feed Me Feedback – a Hospice Chaplain’s Field Guide to Caregiving- Finding Resilience on the Frontlines of Love.
4)    Tao de Ching – No. 29 translation Stephen Mitchell

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